Are you on Facebook? Silly question - of course you are! These days it's easier than ever to connect with family, old friends, new friends, current and potential customers, etc via Facebook. Where else can you keep up with friends you haven't seen in 20 years, have your Auntie hit you on the chat, and sell a piece of Lilly - all at the same time? Yep - that's Facebook.
Everyone manages their Facebook account differently, and in a manner which is comfortable to them. For me personally, I accept almost every friend request that comes my way. Unless I've been told by a trustworthy friend that someone is a total psycho or potential child molester (don't laugh - I've heard both of those stories) - I generally accept the friend request. As a result, I've reconnected with friends I haven't seen or talked with since as far back as elementary school. When you stop and think about it - the "reach" of Facebook is unlike anything ever created.
And even though I mostly accept all friend requests, there is one thing I never do: The Dreaded "Unfriend". You know - it just seems a little rude to me. If you didn't want to be friends with that person in the first place - why did you accept the friend request? Why hurt someones feelings if you don't have to? Disclaimer: if the person is harassing you, then by all means, unfriend and do it quickly. If that's not the case, you can always just hide them. I've only had to "block" one person, as she was harassing me and wants to see me die a slow death by lethal injection - that's a whole nother topic.
Imagine my surprise a few nights ago to discover - purely by accident - that I had been "unfriended". And not just by anyone - but by a fellow blogger. I should say here that I have 1100+ Facebook friends, and my newsfeed is generally clogged with all kinds of stuff. It takes a lot for me to discover I've been unfriended. The only reason I noticed? She had commented on something a mutual friend posted, and I thought to myself "Hey - I haven't seen her on my newsfeed in quite some time" so I clicked her name. When I noticed "Add As Friend" - knowing we were previously Facebook friends - I thought "whoa - she unfriended me".
I have to admit - my feelings were a little hurt. It appeared she kept a ton of our mutual friends (mostly other bloggers) on her personal friend list. Silly me - I thought this blogging community was pretty tight-knit and close. I thought we all stuck together and took up for one another. Apparently, that's not the case in every situation and with every blogger! And even in this community, there are cliques. Believe it.
You might be wondering why this blogger unfriended me. That makes two of us! Maybe we didn't have enough direct communication. Maybe she didn't think I was good enough to be in her inner circle - I really don't know.
To quote Oprah - this is "What I Know For Sure". While my little blog here may not be all about high society, royal weddings, boarding school, and interior design - what I do write about on Shopaholic In Alabama is ME. My life. My reality. I'm not trying to present myself to you as something I'm not.
I'm a Shopaholic. I live on the Alabama Gulf Coast. I buy a ton of Lilly. I am happily married to my prince. I love college football. I am learning to like working out. I love to play in makeup and hair products, and visit the salon as often as possible. My priorities include my family, friends, life here on the coast and maintaining my health. I enjoy the beach, salt water fishing, cooking, reading and selling designer clothing and accessories online. What you see here on Shopaholic In Alabama - that's me. Period.
And about that Royal Wedding....of course I watched the Royal Wedding and appreciate it's historical value. I just thought it would be in poor taste for me personally to blog about it at a time when tornadoes were tearing up cities like Tuscaloosa and Birmingham that friends and family call "home". It seemed more appropriate to discuss my feelings, offer my support, and then blog about a special shopping event held by an Alabama based Lilly store to raise money for tornado victims.
Have you unfriended anyone on Facebook? If so - did you have a conversation first or just hit the button and *poof* they were gone? Have your feelings been hurt by the dreaded "unfriend"? Don't worry - now my feelings aren't hurt and I'm over it. It's their loss, not mine.
Have a great Thursday - I plan to enjoy a leisurely lunch with a friend I haven't seen in months, doing a little Father's Day shopping, and then off to the YMCA for exercise class. Tomorrow is Friday!